Letting go of ideals
Jai Maa! Today, I have been reflecting on how to let go of the “shoulds” in my life: “This person should be more considerate of others.” “My day should have gone differently.” “This family member should understand what I’m trying to say.” I struggle to stop grasping onto the ideal scenarios and just accept reality for what it is in this current moment. I really want to learn to be here now, as Ram Dass would say, and accept that even the positive ideals we have are still causing attachment & driving the samsaric ego. I’m curious to know if anyone else is or has ever experienced the same sort of struggle?
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Jai Maa Suchira! Thank you for your share, I can definitely relate to your process. When I first started studying with Acharya Shunya ji I was so caught up in trying to change everything around me. I thought I had good intentions as a social worker and as an empath, but as you described is was my samsarix ego leading the way, and all of my attachments and wants as well. From a collection of Acharya Shunya ji’s teachings I have learned how to cultivate a sattvic mind, to lessen my attachments and as Suchira beautifully described to be more of a witness to all of life’s transactions. And as Jayanti Kristen said it does get easier over time, I particularly notice this with my relationship to my parents and family members as I soften and find inner peace, I am way less triggered and reactive. You have found the right community to share these sentiments with and the right teacher and wisdom to continue to discern and to accept. Thank you for your share!
Acharya Shunya ji’s book the Sovereign Self has really helped me to drop the samsaric ego and to be in the Sakshi/witness place!